Thursday Links To Love: April 30, 2020

This is the house I grew up in.

This house is where I spent the first few years of my childhood in western Maryland – one room, three floors (if you count the dirt basement), and no hot water. It’s strange to miss a time of life that you don’t remember except through pictures, but there it is. I miss it.

This week’s links are below. As always, hold on to the ones you love, and let the rest go.

Goddamn, Glennon Doyle. Untamed is about as fierce a book as I could ever hope to encounter in pandemic-induced fits of insecurity. On what she was taught as a child versus what she has come to know as an adult: “Good girls aren’t hungry, furious or wild…I understand myself differently now. I was just a caged girl made for wide-open skies. I wasn’t crazy. I was a goddamn cheetah.” And the heart-wrenching question that comes in just the first chapter: “Who was I before I became who the world told me to be?

Khristian seemed a little judge-y about this, but I loved The New York Times’s guide to meditating outdoors. It is ironic that I am looking at it in bed on my computer screen, and I got a little annoyed that the actually natural rain sounds outside drowned out the NYT’s recorded nature sounds on the video. Sigh.

Speaking of New York, I was reading The New Yorker interview with Tori Amos and clicked on the link for her performance on David Letterman a week after 9/11. Even 19 years later, I can conjure up the horror and grief of that sunny day, and this performance of Tom Waits’s song “Time” is a heartwrenching document of that moment in U.S. history. Not ashamed to admit that I was teary by the end, feeling the fullness of sorrow and gratitude mingling in the memory of my own personal losses, wrapped up with the loss of so many people. It’s in moments like this that I think how far away from each other we have become, and I wonder if we are that far away in reality.

Finally, for all those of you who fancy yourselves writers and want to give poetry a go (or if you’re just interested in the weird ways that words can be strung together), here’s a list of 100 poetic forms and links to what they are. Clogyrnach, anyone?

You’re all goddamn cheetahs; go out and meditate in nature this weekend.

Be well. Wash your hands. Love each other.

Here Is The World

The south end of Stony Run, looking north.

“Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid.” Frederick Buechner

As I type this, Khristian is teaching cooking on Zoom to his pre-K class. Their shining faces jiggle and dance in their frames, and it’s hard to know if they are paying attention except when Khristian asks a question, and their sweet voices chime in.

It’s a good reminder on this, the last week in April, on a cloudy day with little sunny prospects, literally or figuratively. Have courage.

Be well. Wash your hands. Love each other.

Sunday Poem: Dropping Keys by Hafiz

Close up detail of a painting with yellow circle and blue and brown lines
Detail of a finished painting. Dropping keys.

Just and only this small offering today. Goodness.

Dropping Keys

The small woman

Builds cages for everyone

She

Knows.

While the sage,

Who has to duck her head

When the moon is low,

Keeps dropping keys all night long

For the

Beautiful

Rowdy

Prisoners.

 

Be well. Wash your hands. Love each other.

Thursday Links To Love: April 23, 2020

Sunset behind clouds as viewed out a rowhouse window
Less pollution = less dramatic sunsets? Here for it. Happy Earth Day.

This week’s Links to Love, friends. I hope you are ignoring the idiot-in-chief’s stupid plans to re-open the country without any plans for widespread testing and no real hope of a vaccination. Please stay safe – stay home.

That said, as always, take what you need from this week’s links and ignore the rest.

The best way to treat the common cold is with contempt“: only one thing actually works to treat the common cold, and it’s probably not what you think.

I am thinking that these sculptures look how time feels right now.

“Quarantine cooking”: since we are not actually under quarantine, this is a misnomer, but ti’s not going to stop me from making this roasted beet dip with Aleppo pepper crackers. Beets are especially delicious this time of year, and I am here for it.

And I may have missed making these buffalo and bleu deviled eggs for Easter, but since I don’t celebrate Easter it doesn’t really matter. Anything deviled surrounding an organized religion makes me laugh, and although I am not generally a fan of deviled eggs, these are delicious. 10/10 would recommend.

Everybody keeps talking about how much our dogs are going to miss us, but what about cats? I think they are eyeing us with contempt, coming so late as we are to operating on cat time.

Finally, maybe we can take this time to experience some post-traumatic growth. The linked article from The New York Times posits that it’s not the Pollyannas who make it through adversity with no lingering effects – it’s those who take a tragically optimistic outlook. The recommendation by an overwhelming majority of researchers who study this topic of resilience suggests that looking for meaning – not happiness, and especially not happiness via consumer goods –  is the way through this pandemic.

How’s your outlook this week?

Earth Day 2020: A Reminder

Leg from a baby doll peeks out of a dead log resting on dried leaves
This is a kind of nature, yes?

For you, on this Earth Day, a reminder:

The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit.

There are two sides of me warring inside as we continue with this pandemic, even as the earth’s skies clear and waters teem again with fish.

The first, as familiar as my favorite pair of jeans (which now have a rip and look terrible on me BUT I DON’T CARE), believes that we will not learn, that we will go on destroying the planet and each other. Because we are selfish, meminemy people who would not seize a learning opportunity if it slapped us in the face. We want what we want, come hell or highwater. #HellIsOtherPeople #Irony

The second side, odd but somehow also something I recognize, has hope that perhaps things might be different. That this situation will somehow show people the real way, the way of kindness and love. The only way that is actually sustainable.

And then Florida shows up. And Georgia. And South Carolina. Sigh.

As ever, be kind. Wash your hands. Love each other.